PREGNANCY & POSTPARTUM: YOUR REPRODUCTIVE JOURNEY
Perinatal Therapy in San Diego, CA
Services available virtually throughout California
The path to and through parenthood—including the long seasons spent waiting for it—can bring intense emotional shifts that leave you feeling disconnected. Whether you are navigating the quiet grief of infertility, the tension of a high-risk pregnancy, or the postpartum depression and anxiety that keeps you up at night, I see you. If you are struggling with the bone-deep exhaustion of parenting or an unexpected loss of self, know that the weight you carry is real. Everything you are feeling is valid.
Navigating the Unseen Journey: Infertility, Loss, and Grief
The road to parenthood is not always linear. For many, it is marked by the emotional rollercoaster of fertility treatments, the heartbreak of pregnancy loss, or the anxiety of the "two-week wait."
If you are navigating the complexities of IVF, the profound grief of a loss, or the stress of a high-risk pregnancy, I offer a compassionate, specialized space to process these experiences. I understand the unique trauma of these "waiting" seasons and am here to support your resilience as you navigate the hope, the heartbreak, and everything in between.
Understanding the Shift: Is this the 'Baby Blues' or something more?
Welcoming a child is a huge life change.
While many new parents experience Baby Blues—common feelings of fatigue or irritability that resolve within the first two weeks—sometimes these emotions run deeper.
When symptoms last longer than two weeks, they may be Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADS).
I specialize in helping individuals navigate:
Postpartum Anxiety: Racing thoughts, physical tension (nausea, dizziness), feelings of 'dread,' or an inability to quiet the mind.
Postpartum Depression: Feelings of anger or 'rage,' a loss of joy in things you once loved, or a heavy sense of guilt and hopelessness.
Supporting Dads and Partners Through the Transition
Parenthood is a shared journey, yet the mental health of partners is often overlooked. Research shows that 1 in 10 men experience depression or anxiety during the perinatal period. I provide a dedicated, non-judgmental space for fathers and partners to process the overwhelming pressure to provide, feelings of withdrawal, or the parenting triggers that arise with a new baby.
Trauma-Informed Perinatal Therapy in San Diego, CA can help!
Virtual Sessions throughout California
What if you could go from:
Feeling anxious and weighed down by guilt
To making decisions driven by your values and what brings you fulfillment instead of fear
Second-guessing yourself or carrying quiet shame
To trusting your needs and feeling confident in yourself
Feeling disconnected from your body, your baby, or your partner
To feeling grounded, present, and secure
Experiencing burnout, emotional fatigue, and feeling like you’re failing
To understanding your nervous system, learning to slow down, and prioritize your needs
Meet your California-Based Perinatal Therapist
KOALANI LAHR, LMFT
Aloha, I’m Koalani, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist by day, and a mother of two, 24/7. As a San Diego based perinatal therapist, I offer trauma-informed care rooted in clinical expertise and lived experience, supporting families through some of their most complex moments with compassion, care, and understanding.
Many of my clients come to me carrying the weight of grief they didn’t expect, bone-deep exhaustion of parenting, and trying to bridge the gap between who they were before kids and the person they are becoming now.
Whatever you’re carrying, you deserve support that honors your story, holds space for all parts of you without judgment, and a person who will show up and be human with you. This is that space.
My practice is fully virtual, secure, and HIPAA-compliant. Because I understand the realities of early parenthood and the fertility journey, infants, breastfeeding, and bottle-feeding are always welcome in our sessions. You deserve a space where you are the priority.
Whether you are navigating the complexities of a difficult pregnancy, the grief of a loss, or the quiet intensity of postpartum life, there is a way through. Let’s find your steadiness together.
Nurture Connection Through Touch
Explore how the gentle practice of infant massage can deepen the bond between you and your baby while supporting their development and fostering a sense of calm and confidence in your new role as a parent.
READY TO START PERINATAL THERAPY VIRTUALLY THROUGHOUT CALIFORNIA?
Let’s Get Started!
Koalani Lahr, LMFT
Trauma-Informed Therapist in San Diego, CA
Virtual Therapy throughout California:
San Diego | La Jolla | Del Mar | Carlsbad| Oceanside | Escondido| La Mesa | Point Loma | Temecula| Laguna | Anaheim | Irvine | Los Angeles| Long Beach| Santa Monica | Culver City | Pasadena | Glendale | Santa Barbara | San Francisco | San Jose| Palo Alto | Sacramento | Oakland | Nevada City| and more…
Call or Text (619) 859-5551 to get started today!