Anxiety & Perinatal Therapy in San Diego, CA
Helping overwhelmed adults move from overthinking and self-doubt to calm, confidence, and feeling like themselves again.
Virtual Therapy Services throughout California
Life Can Feel Overwhelming
And You Don’t Have To Face It Alone
Virtual Therapy for Anxiety and Postpartum in California
Your brain is always running. You’re replaying conversations, worrying about the future, putting yourself last, and wondering if you’re doing enough. Deep down, you’re craving more peace and a lot less pressure.
Therapy is a place where you don’t have to hold it all together. Together, we'll quiet the overthinking, build healthier boundaries, and create space for you to move through life with greater clarity, self-trust, and ease.
I am currently accepting new clients!
I offer morning and daytime sessions for residents throughout California.
You’re trying so hard to hold everything together, even when it’s leaving you completely drained…
✦ You're constantly overthinking, replaying conversations, or worrying about what could go wrong.
✦ You feel overwhelmed and exhausted, but still think you’re not doing enough.
✦ You put so much pressure on yourself to get everything right, yet still worry you're letting people down.
✦ You take care of everyone else, and just the thought of slowing down or taking time for yourself feels selfish.
I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to live like this. This doesn’t have to be your life. I would be honored to walk with you.
From feeling stuck…to feeling like yourself again
From this…
✦ A mind that never slows down
✦ Constant overthinking and second-guessing
✦ Feeling overwhelmed by everything on your plate
✦Feeling disconnected from yourself and the people you love
✦Constant pressure to keep it all together
To this…
✦ Feeling calmer & more grounded in the present
✦ Trusting yourself and your decisions
✦ Having the tools to navigate life with more confidence and ease
✦ Setting boundaries that honor your needs without carrying guilt
✦ Feeling more present, connected, and engaged in your relationships
Meet Koalani Lahr, LMFT
Anxiety & Perinatal Therapist in San Diego, CA
Virtual Therapy available throughout California
Aloha, I'm Koalani—a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, mom of two energetic boys, and someone who knows how easy it is to lose yourself while caring for everyone else.
I help overwhelmed adults navigate anxiety, pregnancy, postpartum, and life's many transitions with greater steadiness, self-compassion, and confidence.
I believe healing doesn't come from trying harder or doing more. It comes from slowing down, making space for what you're carrying, and learning to respond to yourself with the same kindness you so freely offer everyone else.
Therapy is a space where you don’t have to have it all together. A place where you feel supported, understood, and able to slow down and reconnect with what matters most.
Meaningful Therapy For Authentic Living
Therapy Services
THERAPY FOR PREGNANCY & POSTPARTUM
Specialized individual therapy for the journey into parenthood. Supporting all stages of the perinatal experience and nurturing the parts of you that feel overwhelmed, guilt, or disconnected.
THERAPY FOR ANXIETY
Constantly second-guessing your decisions or replaying conversations in your mind? Tired of people-pleasing and feeling weighed down with guilt? I provide the tools to help you find relief and restore your calm.
RELATIONAL THERAPY
Relationship shifts during big life transitions can be overwhelming. I work with individual partners to process relationship stress, manage parenting triggers, and find their own footing amidst family changes.
INDIGENOUS & MULTICULTURAL THERAPY
Therapy rooted in heritage, culture, and the spirit of Aloha. Your unique history and ancestral stories are held with care and respect, acknowledging the deep connection between where you come from and who you are today.
MINDFULNESS-BASED THERAPY
Exhausted from spiraling into self-blame or feeling like you’re not enough? Mindfulness offers a way to slow down and notice those thoughts before they take hold. Together, we’ll work to quiet the inner-bully and build the tools you need to stay grounded and create a kinder relationship with yourself.
What My Clients Have Said
“Koalani has made such a difference in improving my mental health in a short period of time. I’m grateful to have her as a therapist.”
“I was nervous about starting therapy, but almost immediately felt comfortable with Koalani. She is insightful and warm and has already taught me helpful strategies.”
“Absolutely amazing, so grateful for having found her.”
I Offer A Free 15 Minute Initial Phone Consultation
Therapy is your personal space to slow down, quiet your thoughts, feel supported, and reconnect—with life, with others, and most importantly, with yourself. I offer free 15-minute phone consultations and would love to connect with you.
Frequently Asked Questions
You already have enough on your plate. I’ve gathered these FAQs to help make the logistics of starting therapy as simple and transparent as possible. If there is anything else on your mind, please don’t hesitate to ask.
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My fee for service is $200 per 50-minute session.
I accept all major credit cards, as well as HSA (Health Savings Account) and FSA (Flexible Spending Account) cards.
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My practice is 100% virtual, serving residents throughout the State of California. This allows for more flexibility and accessibility—no commute, just connection! You can show up exactly as you are; infants, breastfeeding, and bottle-feeding are always welcome in our virtual space.
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I am an out-of-network mental health provider.
I am happy to provide a superbill each month that you can submit for potential out-of-network reimbursement (often 50-80%). Please check with your insurance about your out-of-network mental health benefits.
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Our first session is a chance for us to get to know each other. We'll review your intake paperwork, talk about what's bringing you to therapy, discuss your goals, and explore what support you're looking for. My goal is to understand your story and help you feel comfortable as we begin working together.
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I’m so glad that you’re considering giving me a call!
The best way to begin is by scheduling a complimentary 15-minute consultation. This is a low-pressure way for us to connect and see if we are a good fit. Schedule your consultation here.
You can also reach me at 619.859.5551 or koalani.lahr.lmft@gmail.com
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I meet with clients once a week for a 50-minute session, especially during the first six months, as consistent therapy is the most effective way to build momentum and create lasting change.
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Sessions take place through a secure, HIPAA-compliant video platform. You'll receive a private link before each appointment—all you need is a reliable internet connection and a space where you feel comfortable talking.
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Every therapeutic journey is different. Some clients benefit from shorter-term therapy, while others appreciate ongoing support. I work at a slow, steady pace that allows for meaningful and lasting change. If your needs change over time, you're always welcome to return.
Many clients return during new seasons of life, and I'm always happy to reconnect whenever additional support feels helpful.
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I have a 24-hour cancellation policy.
Appointments canceled with less than 24 hours' notice, as well as missed appointments (no-shows), will be charged the full session fee of $200.
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Since my practice is 100% virtual, I can see anyone residing anywhere in the State of California. For my Infant Massage classes, there are no residency requirements—you can join from anywhere in the world!
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Infants, breastfeeding, and bottle-feeding are always welcome. My practice is built to support the realities of parenthood, not add to your stress. I’ve had many sessions where contact naps were involved.
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Contact Information
koalani.lahr.lmft@gmail.com
Call or Text (619) 859-5551
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Koalani Lahr, LMFT
Anxiety & Perinatal Therapist in San Diego CA
Virtual Therapy throughout California:
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Call or Text (619) 859-5551 to get started today!