Online Anxiety and Perinatal Therapy in California
Specialized support for pregnancy, postpartum, and high-functioning anxiety. Rooted in the spirit of Aloha.
I am currently accepting new clients into my solo private practice.
I offer morning and daytime sessions for residents throughout California.
In-network with Aetna, United Healthcare, and Optum. Private pay options available.
Life Can Feel Overwhelming,
And You Don’t Have To Face It Alone
Virtual Therapy for Postpartum and Anxiety in California
Life can feel intense—full of pressure, endless to-do lists, and a mind that won't quiet down. Whether you’re navigating the transition to parenthood, managing high-functioning anxiety, or working through relationship stress, I’ll meet you where you’re at. I help you find steadiness and support during this season of life.
It’s Time To Feel Like You Again
I’m Koalani Lahr, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California with over 15 years of experience helping individuals find their way back to balance. I specialize in the tender spaces of pregnancy and postpartum challenges, parenting triggers, anxiety, and stress management.
My approach is rooted in Aloha—centered on deep compassion, presence, and a belief in your inherent worth. I earned my master’s degree from the University of San Diego and spent seven years supporting military families through the complexities of infertility, difficult pregnancies, and early parenthood.
By blending evidence-based tools like Mindful Self-Compassion, Somatic Therapy, EMDR, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with a deep foundation in child development, I provide a safe, non-judgmental space. Here, you can slow down, process your experiences, and truly reconnect with yourself.
“I was nervous about starting therapy, but almost immediately felt comfortable with Koalani. She is insightful and warm.”
A Personalized, One-on-One Partnership
As a solo practitioner, I provide a consistent and high-touch therapeutic experience. When you join my practice, you work directly with me—from our initial consultation to every clinical session. Whether you are in San Diego, the Bay Area, or anywhere in California, you receive the dedicated attention of an experienced specialist.
Meaningful Therapy For Authentic Living
HIGH FUNCTIONING ANXIETY & BURNOUT
I work with high-achieving individuals who feel constantly "on." If you are navigating career stress, perfectionism, or internal pressure, I provide the tools to help you restore your calm and move through life with sustainable ease.
PREGNANCY & POSTPARTUM SUPPORT
Specialized individual therapy for the journey into parenthood. While I support all stages of the perinatal experience, my deep focus is helping you navigate the unique challenges of the postpartum period. Drawing on my 15 years of experience in pediatric medical settings and military family services, I help you move toward a sense of groundedness.
SUPPORT FOR PARTNERS
Relationship shifts during big life transitions can be overwhelming. I work with individual partners to process relationship stress, manage parenting triggers, and find their own footing amidst family changes.
Finding Balance + Joy
What We Can Achieve Together
PREGNANCY & POSTPARTUM SUPPORT
Specialized individual therapy for the journey into parenthood. While I support all stages of the perinatal experience, my focus is helping you navigate the unique challenges of the postpartum period. Drawing on my background in pediatric medical settings and military family services, I help you move toward a sense of groundedness.
ANXIETY THERAPY & BURNOUT RECOVERY
Advanced individual support for high-functioning anxiety and chronic stress. Using my 15 years of clinical experience, I help you break the cycle of "doing" so you can reconnect with who you truly are and find sustainable relief.
Caring For Yourself Is Not Selfish
It’s Essential
Therapy rooted in compassion, presence, and the spirit of Aloha
I support individuals navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and parenthood; humans challenged with cultural identity, burnout, or needing help managing their stress and anxiety.
What My Clients Have Said
“Koalani has made such a difference in improving my mental health in a short period of time. I’m grateful to have her as a therapist.”
I was nervous about starting therapy, but almost immediately felt comfortable with Koalani. She is insightful and warm and has already taught me helpful strategies.”
“Absolutely amazing, so grateful for having found her.”
I Offer A Free 15 Minute Initial Phone Consultation
Therapy is your personal space to slow down, quiet your thoughts, feel supported, and reconnect—with life, with others, and most importantly, with yourself. I offer free 15-minute phone consultations and would love to connect with you.