Trauma-Informed Perinatal Therapy in San Diego, CA
Fertility, Pregnancy, Birth Trauma, and Postpartum Healing
Virtual Therapy Services throughout California
Life often holds space for joy and struggle at the exact same time. Whatever you’re carrying right now, you don't have to navigate the weight of it alone.
Aloha! I’m Koalani
Specialized support for pregnancy, postpartum, and high-functioning anxiety. Rooted in the spirit of Aloha.
I am currently accepting new clients into my solo private practice.
I offer morning and daytime sessions for residents throughout California.
In-network with Aetna, United Healthcare, and Optum. Private pay options available.
Life Can Feel Overwhelming,
And You Don’t Have To Face It Alone
Virtual Therapy for Postpartum and Anxiety in California
Too often, parents in the thick of it hesitate to reach out. They wonder if their struggle is heavy enough, like they should be able to handle it.
You don’t need to reach a breaking point to be worthy of support. If you feel overwhelmed, stuck, or you’re not feeling like yourself, that is reason enough to get started with therapy.
Your well-being matters. Your needs matter. You matter.
Using EMDR, somatic tools, and mindfulness, I support individuals in San Diego and throughout the state of California navigating fertility challenges, pregnancy loss, birth trauma, postpartum anxiety, and the profound identity shifts that come with this season of life.
If you’re not a new or expecting parent, there is place for you here too!
It’s Time To Feel Like You Again
Meet Koalani Lahr, LMFT
Trauma-Informed Therapist in San Diego, CA
Virtual Therapy available throughout California
I’m Koalani Lahr, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California with over 15 years of experience helping individuals find their way back to balance. I specialize in the tender spaces of pregnancy and postpartum challenges, parenting triggers, anxiety, and stress management.
My approach is rooted in Aloha—centered on deep compassion, presence, and a belief in your inherent worth. I earned my master’s degree from the University of San Diego and spent seven years supporting military families through the complexities of infertility, difficult pregnancies, and early parenthood.
By blending evidence-based tools like Mindful Self-Compassion, Somatic Therapy, EMDR, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with a deep foundation in child development, I provide a safe, non-judgmental space. Here, you can slow down, process your experiences, and truly reconnect with yourself.
A Personalized, One-on-One Partnership
As a solo practitioner, I provide a consistent and high-touch therapeutic experience. When you join my practice, you work directly with me—from our initial consultation to every clinical session. Whether you are in San Diego, Los Angeles, the Bay Area, or anywhere in California, you receive the dedicated attention of an experienced specialist.
Meaningful Therapy For Authentic Living
Therapy Services
THERAPY FOR PREGNANCY & POSTPARTUM
Specialized individual therapy for the journey into parenthood. Supporting all stages of the perinatal experience and nurturing the parts of you that feel overwhelmed, numb, or disconnected.
THERAPY FOR ANXIETY
Overwhelmed by constant worry and stress? Constantly second-guessing your decisions or replaying conversations in your mind? Tired of people-pleasing and feeling weighed down with guilt? I provide the tools to help you find relief and restore your calm.
RELATIONAL THERAPY
Relationship shifts during big life transitions can be overwhelming. I work with individual partners to process relationship stress, manage parenting triggers, and find their own footing amidst family changes.
EMDR THERAPY
Tired of feeling stuck in old patterns even when you “know better”? EMDR therapy helps your brain process those old memories so the past no longer has the power to run your present.
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MINDFULNESS-BASED THERAPY
Exhausted from spiraling into self-blame or feeling like you’re not enough? Mindfulness offers a way to slow down and notice those thoughts before they take hold. Together, we’ll work to quiet the inner-bully and build the tools you need to stay grounded and create a kinder relationship with yourself.
Caring For Yourself Is Not Selfish
It’s Essential
Does this sound familiar?
You’re always on high alert, and the restlessness keeps you up at night.
You’re feeling disconnected from yourself, your partner, and your baby.
Rest feels uncomfortable, like you always need to be doing something or moving.
You second-guess yourself constantly, and find yourself replaying a conversation or situation over and over in your head.
You silently question why it’s so hard for you, when everyone else seems to have it all together.
You’re feeling overwhelmed, overextended, and emotionally drained, but feel guilty asking for help.
You worry this will never go away, and you’ll have to live like this forever.
I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to live like this. This doesn’t have to be your life. I would be honored to walk with you.
What My Clients Have Said
“Koalani has made such a difference in improving my mental health in a short period of time. I’m grateful to have her as a therapist.”
I was nervous about starting therapy, but almost immediately felt comfortable with Koalani. She is insightful and warm and has already taught me helpful strategies.”
“Absolutely amazing, so grateful for having found her.”
I Offer A Free 15 Minute Initial Phone Consultation
Therapy is your personal space to slow down, quiet your thoughts, feel supported, and reconnect—with life, with others, and most importantly, with yourself. I offer free 15-minute phone consultations and would love to connect with you.
Healing doesn’t have to wait for the perfect moment – Let’s start now.
Your initial consultation call is free, confidential, and there’s no obligation.
Let’s Get In Touch
Koalani Lahr, LMFT
Trauma-Informed Therapist in San Diego CA
Virtual Therapy throughout California:
San Diego | La Jolla | Del Mar | Carlsbad| Oceanside | Escondido| La Mesa | Point Loma | Temecula| Laguna | Anaheim | Irvine | Los Angeles| Long Beach| Santa Monica | Culver City | Pasadena | Glendale | Santa Barbara | San Francisco | San Jose| Palo Alto | Sacramento | Oakland | Nevada City| and more…
Call or Text (619) 859-5551 to get started today!