RESTORE YOUR CALM AND STEADINESS

Anxiety Therapy in San Diego, CA

Services available virtually throughout California

Stress and anxiety are part of the human experience, but for the high-achiever, they often wear a mask of productivity. You may be the dependable one for everyone else—the one who “has it all together”—while privately feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and stuck in a cycle of overthinking.

Whether you are navigating the pressure of a demanding career, replaying conversations endlessly in your mind, or jumping to worst-case scenarios, anxiety shouldn't be running the show. Drawing on 15 years of clinical experience, I provide a specialized space to help you quiet the noise so that you can feel calmer, more present, more in control, and more grounded in your day-to-day life.

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I offer a secure, HIPAA-compliant space for our sessions.

Infants and feeding are always welcome.

Common Signs of Anxiety & Burnout I Support

  • The Pressure to be 'On': A constant internal drive to be productive, perfect, or over-perform.

  • Mental Exhaustion: Constant overthinking, second-guessing yourself, or replaying social interactions.

  • Decision Fatigue: Difficulty concentrating or feeling paralyzed by choices, both big and small.

  • Over-Functioning: Falling into people-pleasing patterns or carrying the emotional weight for everyone else.

  • Physical Depletion: Feeling on edge, crying easily, or experiencing panic symptoms like a racing heart and shortness of breath.

  • The 'Shut Down' Response: Feeling so emotionally depleted that you want to withdraw or disconnect from your surroundings.

Anxiety Therapy in San Diego, CA can help!

Virtual Sessions throughout California

Recovery from burnout isn't just about taking a break and a breath—it’s about rewiring how you relate to stress and your own expectations. Using evidence-based tools like Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Mindfulness, and Somatic Therapy, we get curious about how anxiety shows up in your thoughts, body, and daily life, and learn practical strategies to calm your mind and body, and heal your nervous system.

What if you could go from:

  • Constant worry about the future or replaying conversations from the past

    • To grounding yourself in the present and trusting your ability to navigate what comes up

  • Overthinking and ruminating

    • To making decisions aligned with your values and what’s important to you

  • Physical tension and feeling “on edge”

    • To feeling calmer and more present

Meet your California-Based Anxiety Therapist

KOALANI LAHR, LMFT

Aloha, I’m Koalani, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who helps adults navigate anxiety with compassion, understanding, and evidence-based support. Whether you’re overthinking, second-guessing, feel the pressure to be perfect and hold it all together, or feel guilty asking for help, you don’t have to carry it all alone.

Many of my clients come to me as the dependable one for everyone else, but feel selfish doing something for themselves. They feel stuck in self-doubt, self-criticism, not being “enough”, or feeling like a failure.

I know how anxiety can make it feel like you’re never doing enough. That somehow everyone else has it figured it out, but you’re struggling to get by. You deserve to feel calm, grounded, and to live a life that sparks joy. You deserve a safe and nurturing space to be yourself and feel your feelings. This is that space.


My practice is fully virtual, secure, and HIPAA-compliant. Because I understand the realities of early parenthood and the fertility journey, infants, breastfeeding, and bottle-feeding are always welcome in our sessions. You deserve a space where you are the priority.

Whether you are navigating the pressure to be perfect or the quiet exhaustion of burnout, there is a way through. Let’s find your steadiness together.

Connecting With The Present Moment

Mindful Therapy in San Diego, CA

MINDFULNESS-BASED THERAPY

Mindfulness is the practice of gently bringing your attention back to the here and now, allowing you to observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment. By slowing down and tuning into your physical sensations, you can create a quiet space to process emotions and reclaim a sense of grounded calm in your daily life.

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READY TO START ANXIETY THERAPY VIRTUALLY THROUGHOUT CALIFORNIA?

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Koalani Lahr, LMFT

Trauma-Informed Therapist in San Diego, CA

Virtual Therapy throughout California:

San Diego | La Jolla | Del Mar | Carlsbad| Oceanside | Escondido| La Mesa | Point Loma | Temecula| Laguna | Anaheim | Irvine | Los Angeles| Long Beach| Santa Monica | Culver City | Pasadena | Glendale | Santa Barbara | San Francisco | San Jose| Palo Alto | Sacramento | Oakland | Nevada City| and more…

Call or Text (619) 859-5551 to get started today!